Friday, December 02, 2016

Flower Essences for "Life Purpose"

I make a flower essence formula called "Manifesting Life Purposeas well as sprays and oils that include the added benefits of aromatherapy. My thinking when I first made this formula was that people often need help with what they should be when they grow up and how to get there! Often the question comes in the form of "how do I achieve my life purpose?" because, more than anything, many of us grew up with the idea that the very best way to make a living is to do something we love, and doing what we love must mean we're achieving our life purpose. Right?

Possibly . . . but not always. Life purpose doesn’t necessarily equate to how you make a living. Life purpose is what drives you and gives your life meaning whether it’s on the job or not. It’s a quality of presence—not “what” you do but “why.” Honestly, when you’re in touch with it well enough, you don’t think about it. It’s who you are and how you express yourself in the world. 

BUT when you integrate spiritual purpose into all that you do, getting up to go to work will have a greater meaning. For example: if your purpose is to bring joy to other people—to lift them up—you can fulfill that purpose in ANY job that involves people. Sure, you could be a counselor if that satisfies your calling. But you can also fulfill that purpose by being fun, genuinely caring, attentive and positively focused in any position: a bank teller who tells everyone to have a wonderful day in such a genuine way that they actually feel grateful, a waitress or sales clerk who makes people feel at home, a performer or artist who chooses to lift people up in what they do. What you bring to any job—what makes it a "good" day for you no matter what—matters more than the job itself (assuming the basics of being treated well and making enough money, etc. are there, too). 

But, for some people, a life purpose is best fulfilled in specific kinds of professions. If that applies to you, you will find my Manifesting Life Purpose formula particularly helpful as it helps you clarify your thinking, find inspiration to move you forward, and gives you the focus and inner presence to go out and do what matters most to you.

Thursday, December 01, 2016

Flower Essences for Abundant Prosperity?

Why on earth would I create a flower essence formula for “abundant prosperity”? After all, I’m not making “magic” potions, I’m making products for emotional wellness and upliftment. So let me be honest here: I want abundant prosperity and I do believe that releasing blocks a person might have for getting there (or enjoying what prosperity they already have) is the key. This formula is for feeling more joy, more gratefulness and more peace within. That’s what a person who has abundant prosperity would feel in their lives. And that’s where we begin. What you do with that joy and gratefulness will be so much greater than what you could do from a place of feeling oppressed, fearful, depressed or hopeless, so much greater than a place of despair. It might even be fun.

You can even spray Abundant Prosperity around the room and share it with your loved ones! I have done that many times -- it IS fun!

Sunday, November 20, 2016

Flower Essences with Aromatherapy for Post-Election Stress

Star of Bethlehem
A lot of people are going through post-election stress! If you're feeling anxious, having a hard time sleeping or focusing on other aspects of your life, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! For one thing, I'm right in there with you. But therapists are reporting that almost all their clients are talking about nothing else and old clients are coming back for extra help.

People with PTSD are particularly being triggered. Women just "saw" their rapist elected president or their uncle who molested them as a kid. Muslims have just had their worst fears realized and were already feeling traumatized throughout his campaign. Dreamer kids are freaking out. A friend of mine who teaches at Chico State has been comforting terrified Muslim and Latino students who are already experiencing racial violence and harassment on campus even if they were born in the United States. Black Americans are rightfully concerned about the selection of overtly racist people like Stephen Bannon and Senator Jeff Sessions to the Trump cabinet and LGBTQ people are horrified by his vice-president Mike Pence. As are women. I could actually fill up this whole blog with links!

Deep breath!

There are starting to be articles, of course, about how to cope with post-election stress. The Atlantic, for example, offered this even before the election was over. And since the election I have seen more and more articles on the subject every day. Cosmopolitan Magazine offers a to-the-point list of suggestions. And there's even some fun suggestions like this one from NPR that suggests that baking muffins might be helpful!

Okay, I imagine you're getting impatient. What about flower essences and aromatherapy?!!

Try these:

Mama Love Support for Troubled Times : for trauma, grief, loss, and pain. When you don't know how you're going to cope and the need for comfort is so great it feels like it would have to come from the Great Mother herself. (The formula that started me on the path of making flower essence with aromatherapy products in the first place.)

Mama Love for Releasing Worry and Fear: my best-selling formula of all time! And the one I'm using right now.

Mama Love for Restful Nights (used to be called Restful Sleep): For deep relaxation before bed but I also strongly recommend using it earlier in the evening as well as before bed right now!

Mama Love for Soothing the Angry Heart: helpful for releasing not only anger but the grief, shock and pain that often lies underneath.

You can get my three top-selling stress reduction formulas as a set for 30% off in my Etsy shop.

Friday, November 18, 2016

Flower Essences for the Trump Presidency for Activists and Those Who Need to Be

I wish I knew who to credit for this photo!
It's been shared so many times I haven't been able to track it down.

It’s a hard time right now in Internet land. Hoo boy! The most understated post from a friend of mine: “I’m feeling negative about the election.” A bunch of people chimed in and one said “Did you really think a woman was going to be elected after a black president? There’s always a pendulum swing!” And he said “This time, I think the pendulum just swung clear off!”

Ain’t that the truth?

I’m not even going to get into the most upsetting incidents that have happened this week with Trump being elected. People are calling for “unity” and for us to “Give him a chance!” But all week long all we’ve heard about is one cabinet pick after another of white supremacists, right-wing extremists, corporate lobbyists and deep Washington insiders—the dwellers of the very swamp he claimed to want to drain. I guess he wanted to drain the swamp so they could climb out and go to town easier! Oh, well, I guess I just DID get into it, but that’s enough.

What do we do now?!!! And, given that this is not a short-term proposition, how do we work with the inner processes that are likely to come up along the way?

Step One: How do you feel now? Are you sleeping, eating, dealing with YOUR physical and emotional well-being? The world needs us well-cared for (nourished, strong and getting enough sleep) to be able to think straight, take action, see what happens, regroup and do it again. And again and again and . . . as long as it takes. 

We all wish this was a short-term project. But even if we somehow win a BIG victory and keep Trump out of office (through lawsuits, impeachment, whatever), we still have right-wingers in the White House and Republicans in control of both the House and Senate with the Supreme Court in extreme danger. Basically, fewer checks and balances than any time in living memory! So, we need an action plan that nourishes us, focuses us and brings us back to the task at hand over and over as much as possible. 

Flower essences we may wish to consider are Angel’s Trumpet, Gentian and Blackberry. 

Angel’s Trumpet: I groaned when I came up with Angel’s Trumpet! That’s the essence for spiritual surrender at times of great transition. Surrender, being the last thing I want to feel. But in cases where we don’t have the BIG picture, really, when we feel a bit lost or even in despair, it’s best to get out of the way and let the impulse to move or create come from a much more centered place. This might mean acknowledging those really painful feelings (sure to trip you up) instead of attempting to leap over them without regrouping first. So surrender to the reality of the moment before determining exactly what to do. Be with what is . . . as a starting place.

Gentian: This is for resilience and the confidence to persevere despite setbacks over the long haul. You need to feel like there’s hope, especially if Donald Trump gets to follow through on some of his most awful plans. Gentian helps you take the long view, knowing that the worst feeling setbacks provide a gift in forcing you to get to know what REALLY needs to be addressed in order to climb back out and win. For example, can we do this WITHOUT the part of the population that voted him in? Not right now! They’ve been held down for too long themselves! But if that’s what we NEED to address (and I can’t be sure of this—he may disappoint them all on his own), you can be sure that in the short-term we won’t win (for long) without dealing appropriately and compassionately with them.

Blackberry:  This is for the ability to take our good ideas and put them into action! We need to be able to formulate intentions (what we need to accomplish) and then walk backwards to determine the best steps for achieving those goals and follow through. So easy when the road is clear but not so easy when there are overwhelming feelings, resistance to the status quo, or roadblocks to navigate in our way. That’s why Angel’s Trumpet and Gentian are included in this flower essence formula, too. 

I made a formula of this for myself and I’m still working with it. My first experience was a sudden upwelling of grief and despair. I had been feeling angry and frightened — in fight or flight mode — but those other feelings were lurking underneath. This is not my favorite type of flower essence experience, but I’ve learned that it is sometimes best to uncover those hidden feelings so I can recognize how they are affecting me and work with them directly. If I force them underground (as I usually do), they don’t get healed. Instead they fester, get worse, and might even rise up in a blind rage and drag me under when I least suspect it (sort of like the white people who say they felt disregarded and forgotten in this election). 

Trust me, I don’t like feeling sad! In fact, at first I felt like I couldn’t do any of the things I wanted to get done either in regards to Donald Trump or in regards to the equally troubling concerns I have in my personal life. (Job hunting, for example, or business expansion or new business or career directions.) The ONLY thing I felt like I had any energy for was housecleaning, a simple concrete set of tasks I knew I could accomplish. So that’s what I got done. 

And I felt better! I actually took an action with beneficial and obvious results. A tiny thing—after all, it’s not going up against the fascist who just took the reins of the free world—but it made me feel better. And today, I had regained the courage to take political action by calling my state senators and the U.S. Oversight Committee to urge them to do their jobs in regards to opposing Trump’s appointments and investigating his financial conflicts of interest. I wrote encouragement to others on Facebook, sent emails, and passed on petitions. And I’ve just written this blog post, too. Nothing earth-shattering here — tiny steps, for sure. But tiny steps, taken by 100s of thousands of other people can do A LOT! 

But only if we take care of ourselves. We’ve only just begun.

I also recommend my stress reduction formulas for Grief, Anger, Fear, Support for Troubled Times or letting go of the concerns of the day so you can get some rest.

Friday, November 11, 2016

The Importance of Comfort and Joy! (Flower Essence Formula, that is.)

Mama Love for Comfort and Joy Flower Essence Formula
When I first wrote about Mama Love for Comfort and Joy for Etsy I joked that it was the one I needed to use more often! It was designed to help people relax, lighten up, enjoy the moment and have more fun. And -- for that reason -- I never have taken this formula very seriously! Oops.

I take it seriously now because it has been doing me a lot of good!

It contains Larch, Zinnia, and Rock Water flower essences and I always believed it was for
increased feelings of self-confidence and spontaneity, childlike humor and playfulness, and for increased capacity to flow with events and enjoy them. And it is, but I assumed too little about it.

I originally described this as being mostly for people, like myself, who slip into patterns of being way too serious, hard on myself, even workaholic. I was brought up with a severe work ethic which counteracts the joy a person ought to expect in a life regardless of what one's paycheck is. But this is a way more significant formula than just being able to loosen up and have more fun (although it is great for that). No, this formula has made such an obviously significant difference in me having more positive and light-hearted expectations that I no longer go to bed terrified at night, fearing for my future! I'm no longer using my Releasing Worry and Fear formula  at night so I can sleep. In fact, when this effect first started to take hold I started to worry that maybe I was going to lose the drive to work so hard and put myself in jeopardy! Ha ha, no! I still work hard. But I can put the work down now and sleep at night, I worry far less and laugh more often. It helps me let go of the need to control the future (which is an illusion anyway), notice the funny side of life, and relax enough to enjoy the ride.

Friday, November 04, 2016

Is There a Problem with Ready-Made Flower Essence Formulas Other than Rescue Remedy?

Yes! Of course there is! Flower Essences are not a one-size fits all solution to generic problems! On the other hand, even Dr. Edward Bach recognized that there are many occasions when a one size fits most remedy like Rescue Remedy is good to have around.

As a flower essence practitioner and spiritual counselor who has based all my work on staying in integrity as much as possible (hence my small bank account, she says with a frown), it is no small deal for me to go against the conventional Bach practitioner training on this. In fact, that's why my business started with flower essences added to essential oils in jojoba and then infused with Reiki for topical use. I figured that if you were the person for whom the flower essences chosen were not the ideal pick, then the essential oils and Reiki certainly would fill in the gap.

But as time went on, I felt I should add flower essence only spray formulas to my shop and then started to add conventional dropper bottle formulas in. Why? Because people don't have the time or money to consult with flower essence practitioners as much as they used to anymore. And when the right flower essences are chosen they can do you a lot of good!

I, of course, have offered flower essence consultation and custom flower essence formulas all along. And I more recently added a listing for that in my Etsy shop. That IS usually the ideal way to use a flower essence only formula and it is what I recommend. But after 13 years with many repeat customers I can confidently add that ready-made flower essence formulas combined with essential oils and Reiki was an awesome idea! And I also confidently recommend my ready-made dropper bottles for those who feel it would fit the situation at hand. I ask for guidance and both dowse and use my training to pick those that would be best for the average person looking to address their problems using this modality in the normal way. If you are not familiar with flower essences, this is probably not the right approach for you.