Friday, February 16, 2007

Do You Really Need to Know the Future?

Early in our practice dire predictions of the future our clients could do nothing to prevent came up all the time. It was upsetting. I didn't want to tell people these things but we had set the intention that only what was in the highest benefit for all concerned would occur.

In one case, we received almost instant feedback that knowing ahead of time what was coming—and being given advice on how to handle it well—was of enormous importance to the person who received it. She thanked us for the heads up because when the event that was predicted happened she was able to fly into action well-prepared and handled it with more aplomb.

The next person we met with was given information about her death. Again, I was horrified but she was also given a lot of additional guidance to really go for what she wanted in the time she had left and not to hold back at all. She later let us know that she wasn't sure whether giving people this kind of information was beneficial or not. She was still processing the session weeks later and still not sure—at the time—whether to trust it or not.

The third person was furious and let us know in no uncertain terms that she believed that the gift we believed we were offering at the time was despicable.

The Hippocratic oath says to the physician to "do no harm." But what feels harmful to one person feels beneficial to another. How do you decide?

We decided to ask that not only should the sessions we do be in the service of the highest benefit for all concerned but that they be loving and kind and only as much as our clients could integrate at the current time. Today we receive dire predictions of the future far less often.

In my own life I went through a period when I was obsessed with the future. I was afraid of what was coming and wanted to "be prepared." I got insanely good at predicting future events. Frequently, it helped me take the event in stride when it occurred. Sometimes it helped me change things so I could prevent or alter the course of events. And sometimes it made me obsess all the more with no benefit whatsoever.

Today I know that there are things we can do about future events and things we're better off not trying to control. For one thing, the future is not set in cement. Not only can we change our minds about choices we wish to make, myriads of other people can, too. We touch millions of people through our activity everyday and even the most insignificant choices in one person's life can alter the course of events in someone else's life in surprisingly significant ways.

Furthermore, obsession with future events is a sure sign that you're living in fear. Far better to focus on the times you have received exactly what you've needed when you needed it most, to expect the best, and to know deep down that you have and will have all the resources you could possibly require. By focusing on the gifts you have received and on how much you loved getting them you're saying "I'm grateful! Thank you! " and you'll attract more and more of what you love into your life. Then you don't have to guess at what's coming next. You'll be an active participant in making it happen.

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