Saturday, February 24, 2007

More on Predictions of Death

Many many years ago I used to listen to a radio psychic I respected a lot who, one day, spent part of his show talking about ethics and why he would NEVER tell anyone about bad things happening in their futures, especially never predicting about their deaths. The VERY NEXT WEEK a man called in the very late stages of terminal cancer. His voice was weak, he was tired, but he didn't know if he should give up fighting. He had tried so many cancer treatments already but his friends and family so wanted him alive—and he wished he could be, too— that it was hard to refuse further treatment. He wanted to know if it was worthwhile to keep on trying.

The psychic took a deep breath and was quiet for a long time while he listened for internal guidance to tell him what to say. Finally, obviously in anguish and with his voice cracking as he spoke, he quietly told the man that he should spend his days exactly as he wished—that the MOST important thing was to get his affairs in order, to enjoy the time he had left and say whatever last things he most wanted to say to his loved ones. The psychic didn't want to give this man a death sentence, he didn't want to say "give up", but he saw that this man was already dying. I'm sure the psychic anguished over this one for a long time.

When I first started experimenting with doing psychic consultations, years ago before meeting Paul, I also thought I ought to follow this radio psychic's ethical code—especially when it came to matters of death. So.... the very first three people I meet wanted help with matters related to their deaths. The very first client ONLY wanted to know about his death and I refused over and over, giving all the reasons the radio psychic used. Finally he bursts out with the reason for his concern—he had received a psychic reading that had predicted his life ending by a certain age and that age was fast approaching! He wanted to know if it was true because if he had very little time left he didn't want to spend it working hard on his business, he wanted to have more fun. My guides and I fought. I didn't want to tell him when or if he was going to die any time soon but they said he didn't have that long to "live." Finally, I said that he should live the way we all do—we all die and we all know that death could happen at ANY time. So why not work towards his goals as if the future mattered but live for today as if it was his last day on earth, to enjoy the paradox. To be here now AND enjoy the process of creating something he really wanted to see happen whether he lived to see it to completion or not.

If you believed your time on earth was potentially meant to be shorter than average what would that mean? I've been living with that guidance lately—that someone I care about will die at a younger than average age. Real? Metaphorical? A reflection of my own fears? I won't know, potentially, for a long long time. Hard to hold the balance. To feel happy knowing disaster is possibly right around the corner. That's how the obsessive mind tends to fool itself into a cycle of focusing on worry and fear. What if it all ends tomorrow? What if this wonderful life I've created all falls apart? What if I don't have everything I want and never have a chance to have it?

Oh please! What if THIS time in my life has the potential to be the most happy I've ever experienced? Do I really want to fool myself into missing the opportunity to enjoy the time I have now?

Be here now. I think that's the message predictions of death all have in common. Use the time you have as if you don't have much time left. Don't say "someday, I'll get around to..." Say "I care enough about this thing I want to create to begin it now." Say your "I love you"s every chance you get. Take time to enjoy the sunset, a good dinner, a walk in the park, to hold a loved one's hand, to cherish the day. Do what you most want and need to do to feel satisfied that both your present and future dreams are well in hand. You'll live your life to the fullest and never regret how you spent your time.

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